Sex Toys for Men: A First-Timer's Buying Guide

Most guides to men's sex toys are either vague or overwhelming. This one is neither. Here's a plain breakdown of what actually exists, what each category does, and how to choose a first toy without guessing.

The Main Categories

Masturbators (strokers) are the largest and most developed category. These are sleeve-like toys designed to simulate penetrative sensation. They range from simple textured tubes to high-end automatic devices. The key variables are: texture (internal ridges, nubs, or chambers), tightness, length, and whether there's any added vibration or suction. The Fleshlight is the most recognised brand; Tenga makes more affordable, more discreet options.

Cock rings are worn around the base of the penis (and sometimes behind the testicles) and restrict blood flow out, maintaining firmer erections for longer. They also add sensation during partnered sex for both people. Vibrating cock rings add external stimulation. They're cheap, simple, and one of the most reliably well-reviewed categories of men's sex toy.

Prostate massagers target the prostate gland, located about 2–3 inches inside the anus on the front wall. Prostate stimulation produces a distinct type of orgasm — fuller and more diffuse — that many men find significantly more intense than conventional orgasm. They're not exclusively for any sexual orientation; they work on anatomy, not identity.

Penis pumps create a vacuum around the penis, drawing blood in and producing temporary engorgement. Used correctly, they're primarily for sensation and can help with erectile function. They're not a permanent size-change device.

Vibrating sleeves and wands — a wand massager applied to the penis produces strong, diffuse vibration that many men find more effective than manual stimulation. Vibrating sleeves combine texture with vibration.

What to Actually Buy First

For most men buying their first toy, a masturbator or a vibrating cock ring is the lowest-risk entry point.

Masturbator: If you want solo use. The Tenga Egg range costs under £10 and is a good low-commitment way to try the category. If you want to invest more, the Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit or any Fleshlight with a texture you find visually appealing is the reliable choice. Avoid no-brand silicone or rubber strokers — they tend to feel cheap and are harder to clean.

Vibrating cock ring: If you're interested in partnered use. A simple C-ring with a small vibrating bullet (£15–30) is enough to meaningfully change the experience for both partners. We-Vibe makes higher-end options; ZALO and Satisfyer make good mid-range ones.

Prostate massager: If you're curious about anal stimulation. Start with a small, curved silicone massager (the Aneros Helix Syn is the most recommended entry-level model). Requires patience and proper preparation but produces results that many men describe as transformative.

Material and Safety

The same rules that apply to other sex toys apply here:

Silicone or ABS plastic: Body-safe, non-porous, easy to clean. Use these.

TPE/TPR: Porous but widely used in masturbators due to the soft, realistic feel. Cannot be fully sterilised — use a condom if sharing, and replace periodically.

Avoid: Rubber, jelly, PVC, or anything with no material listed. These often contain phthalates and can cause irritation.

Cleaning

Masturbators require proper cleaning every time. Most open up for rinsing; flush with warm water immediately after use, then air dry completely before storing. Residual moisture causes mould and material degradation.

Cock rings and prostate massagers in silicone can be washed with soap and water or toy cleaner. Fully submersible ones can be rinsed thoroughly.

Budget

Under £20: Tenga eggs, basic TPE masturbators, simple silicone cock rings. Fine for experimenting.

£20–£60: Quality rechargeable vibrating cock rings, better masturbators with more texture variety, entry-level prostate massagers.

£60–£120: Kiiroo, Fleshlight Launch, mid-range automatic strokers, premium prostate vibrators (Lelo Hugo, We-Vibe Vector).

Over £120: Automatic masturbators with interactive features, high-end prostate massagers.